Courting successfully according to research!

Hello? Courtship and cuddly toys are all well and good, but what does the research actually say about courtship? Is there even scientific evidence for this strange phenomenon? Courtship rituals have been a part of human culture for centuries, and showing romantic attention to someone you are interested in is and can feel like a complicated game of signals and expectations. Let's examine some scientific studies that provide some insight into this issue and pick out 5 important guidelines for successful courtship :D

Guideline 1, Choose your words wisely!

A study published in the Journal of Research in Personality (Eastwick & Finkel, 2008) found that communication plays a crucial role in successful courtship. The researchers discovered that girls often prefer a partner who can express themselves well and show that they are interested by using positive words and expressions. So it is important to choose your words wisely when trying to impress someone, especially if that someone is a girl. That is why at Lovebox Sweden we see it as a given feature in our gift boxes, simply that the possibility of including a handwritten message is a must!

Guideline 2, Show genuine interest!

Another study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (Aron et al., 1997) emphasizes the importance of showing genuine interest in the person you are courting. Showing genuine interest involves putting your whole heart into understanding the person in question, and in the process, your partner will feel both seen and heard. Researchers also found that mutually shared interests can increase feelings of connection and attraction. So, when you are trying to impress someone, be sure to ask questions and listen carefully to their answers. Even if you don't share exactly the same interests, often just showing interest in what your partner is passionate about is enough.

Guideline 3, Create positive experiences!

According to an article in "Social Psychological and Personality Science" (Lewandowski et al., 2008), positive experiences are crucial to creating a strong connection between two people. Creating memorable moments together can strengthen the bond between you and the person you are courting. It can be anything from going on a romantic picnic to exploring new places together or surprising them with one of our gift boxes where they can go on a magical emotional journey of discovery throughout the entire gift opening :) Never underestimate the amazing thing about finding one thing after another in a beautiful gift box where the person can also find a message with your very own words written on it. It can melt any heart!

Guideline 4, Customize your courtship!

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to courtship. A study published in "Personality and Individual Differences" (Gueguen, 2011) highlights the importance of tailoring your courtship to the person's individual preferences. Some girls may enjoy more traditional forms of courtship, while others may prefer something more relaxed and spontaneous.

Guideline 5, Confidence is key!

Finally, research shows that self-confidence is an attractive trait when it comes to courtship. A study in "Evolutionary Psychology" (Trivers, 1972) shows that self-confidence apparently signals good genes and is therefore attractive to many girls. But it's important to remember that self-confidence should not be confused with arrogance; a balance is crucial here. But if you feel unsure whether she will appreciate your gift from Lovebox Sweden or something else you have in mind that you would like to do, here's a call: believe in yourself, do what YOU want to do. If you WANT to woo her with a cute gift box, then the cringe factor in you is actually less important. Go ahead and get that wooing done. She won't be disappointed, especially not when she also gets the communicative aspect of the box, where you make her feel both seen, heard and very special! Self-confidence leads to action and that's a pretty sexy trait, after all, if you ask me :)